Lack of long-range vision keeps us stuck. If you can’t see your goal, how can you know which way to go?
How clear is your long-range vision for your life? Do you know what you are moving towards?
This is the theme of our times, isn’t it? From corporate leaders to the woo-ist of woo-woo gurus, there are slews of books, articles, even slogans, asking us “What do you really want?”
But here’s the thing: even with a great long-range vision, we can still find it hard to move towards our goals.
Because mid-range vision is radically important when it comes to moving towards a goal, because that’s where all the ACTION happens.
Knowing what we want isn’t enough. There’s often a wide chasm between where we are and where we want to end up. Hence, all those numbered lists of the 5, or 10 things ‘every successful … fill-in-the-blank … does’ for creating everything from fabulous wealth to the perfect relationship. And these are useful, if we want exactly what others have. We can walk confidently in the footsteps of others, marching on solid ground from where we are to where we want to be.
But what if our vision is more idiosyncratic?
“Success” is only really success if it fits the individual. It’s this realization that leads to mid-life crises. So what if you have a clear vision of your long-range goal, that golden place where everything is just Right, but between here and there is a confusing, cloudy fog? A blind spot.
We all have blind spots.
(unless you’re an octopus).
Structural ones, caused by the architecture of a vertebrate’s eye, and also psychological ones to some degree of another. Things we may understand intellectually, and yet can’t quite believe or grasp, or honestly conceive of at a more personal level.
They can keep us stuck against our deeper wishes.
It’s hard to trust in something we are told exists when it’s contradicted by our own experience. Even a child too young to have learned to crawl can experience distress when next to a ‘visual cliff’.
This is why Allies are critically important.
As I mentor and coach, I’m helping my clients and students recognize their blind-spots, and map paths through them.
We all flounder without perspective. That’s why I have my own mentor and coaches to awaken to me to the things I’m not seeing, and the opportunities surrounding me. It’s not so much that it makes the journey easier, (and it does), as that it makes it possible in the first place.
Allies who share our blind-spots support our stuck-ness. They magnify our fears and justify our indecision. We need the aid of alternate experience, and diverse concepts, to transform a psychological scotoma into a field of opportunities.
Where are your blind-spots? Who are your allies? Where could you use a different perspective?
Contact me here and we’ll see if we are a good fit.
“Within minutes of working with Nikki you know that you are in the hands of a master craftsman. She is both gentle and provocative in her approach, and has a way of effortlessly setting your inner gears in motion. Before you know it, you are discovering the root of your question and identifying effective ways to explore and play with it. It is such a pleasure to work with her.”
Ann Dretzka, Founder/President Inspired Grit – www.InspiredGrit.com